Tuesday, February 16, 2021

you are cordially invited to a Dinner Party with the Saints

 


I have long admired Woodeene Koenig-Bricker, her talent, quest for innovation, and expert knowledge -- as a writer, author, history buff, editor, archeology lover. But she has outdone herself in this latest book, “Dinner Party with the Saints.” 

 

Wow, what a creative endeavor! 

 

In this imaginative book, Woodeene gathers 16 holy women and men around a dinner table, as they wait in heaven together for the arrival of the One special guest. 


The group of saints — from St. Josephine Margaret Bakhita and St. John the Baptist, to St. Kateri Tekakwitha and St. Andrew Kim Taegon— is as varied and intriguing as the premise of the book!

 

Each chapter includes a short bio, favorite saint quote, legends and miracles surrounding the saint, prayers, and explanations of the historical time and culture when they lived. Here’s a sample chapter, about St. Peter

 

But wait, that’s not all! Each saint’s story also includes a uniquely appropriate dinner recipe, courtesy of Woodeene's partner, classically-trained chef Celia Murphy.  

 

Seriously, what a creative combination. 

 

I especially love the humorous interaction between the saints, such Josephine Bakhita and Augustine bonding over both being from the African continent. 

 

Want to know more about Woodeene? Click here!

 

And to learn more about recipe creator Celia Murphy? Click here!


And of course, here's where you can get the book, Paraclete Press

 

  


Tuesday, January 5, 2021

our common journey: all are refugees







Epiphany, when we remember the wise men who knelt before the Son of God to pay Him homage, will always be a personal favorite.


On January 5, Epiphany’s eve -- exactly 59 years ago, my parents, my brother and I left our home town of Pinar del Río for the capital city of Habana. There, our family of four boarded a plane toward an unknown, mysterious and invisible future, becoming refugees in a new land. 


On that day, like the wise men who followed only the star, my parents chose to do the inconceivable, to leave the only place we had ever known, with nothing but our faith and hope in God's promises. I was 17 months old, the youngest of María de Jesús and Ignacio's children.


My official passport photo for leaving Cuba

When I look at my granddaughter now, roughly the same age I was when I walked out on that tarmac, I am blown away by the truth that certain life-altering experiences - like becoming a refugee - are etched deeply in our souls, shaping who we are. These moments may not live in my conscious memories, but they changed me forever. Emotions transcend memory.


My parent's anxiety, fear, determination as they walked us from airport official to official, clinging to each other and to each of us. The cruelty of the officer at the airport who ripped a doll from my arms. The passengers’ tension after hours of waiting on the runway, fearful that someone else would be taken off the plane. And the peace that surpasses understanding, as my father, who was aptly named after the brave Ignatius of Loyola, quietly began to recite, 


"El Señor es mi pastor, nada me falta... the Lord is my Shepherd, there is nothing I shall want."


The events that led to my parent's decision to risk everything and leave family and home evolved quickly. Fidel Castro had closed the churches and the Catholic schools where both my parents worked. And he had collected religious men, women, priests, brothers, sisters, whom my parents considered friends, family and mentors, and literally shipped them off the island on a boat, destination unknown.

My own dad had been picked up on his way home one day and taken to the local jail for interrogation, accused of speaking out in the local Catholic newspaper, condemning how the Church and its people were being treated. Providentially, in the chaos of an evolving, disorganized revolution, my father was miraculously let go in the middle of the night and sent home.

 

Not long after the wise men venerated baby Jesus, Scripture tells us that an angel came to Joseph and told him to leave everything behind and take Mary and the baby to a foreign land—refugees, like me.

My parents' courage and faith is genuinely a parable, much like the parables Jesus used to proclaim Truth to His disciples, and now to us.

 

Surely with much fear and trepidation, they chose to believe in the promise we pray every morning in the Canticle of Zechariah:


This was the oath he swore to our father [Ignacio]:
to set us free from the hands of our enemies,
free to worship him without fear,
holy and righteous in his sight
all the days of our life.

Although there are many in the world who will, most of us will not be faced by such stark choices this coming year. But a pandemic has made us experience profound emotions: fear and anxiety; exiled from our normal, refugees separated from family, work, and everything familiar. We are still struggling with abandonment, isolation, distress, letting go of the known for something new and incomprehensible.

 

There really is only one choice before us, choose Life. Follow the star. Believe in the promise, the oath, God made with each of us.


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[NOTE: I am excited to begin a new journey this month as columnist for Liguorian Magazine's regular column, "Just live it"!  Clickhere for the printed, edited version of this column, y ¡feliz día de los tres Santos Reyes!






 

Saturday, November 21, 2020

an Advent like no other







[Note: these holy women are all part of my saint posse, 
the ones I call on and depend on to walk with me. 
They are all found at Clear Creek Abbey in Eastern Oklahoma]


It’s been a long time… I’ve missed chatting with you all. I’ll write more about the past few months soon, but today, let me put in a plug for ADVENT…

There is so much about the season of Advent that I have always loved. Waiting. Anticipation. Grace. Beautiful feast days. Incarnation. We are the only religion who make this bold radical claim. The son of God became flesh, like us, within a human mother. And He entered the world as a humble, fragile baby.


In the midst of this bizarre pandemic year, where nothing is familiar and everything feels unsteady, where the future is a mystery and it is impossible to predict or prepare for what comes next… I invite you to be still. 


Talk walks outside. Sit and feel the sun on your face. Break the usual habits and find space, time, silence to just be. 

 

To this end, I want to suggest two resources that you don’t want to miss!

 

·      I pray with the beautiful Magnificat Magazine daily. And this year, as they have in the past, the generous folks at Magnificat have sent me several FREE Advent apps to give away to my readers. Interested?  Just leave me a message here, or email me directly: mymaria@me.com


·      In the past few years, I have written biographies about three modern saints, and each one enriched and transformed my life in a very personal way. 

 

I humbly suggest, for your Advent reading… or as a gift for a friend, the stories of these amazing holy people:

 

Rosemary Nyirumbe: Sewing Hope in Uganda (Liturgical Press)



Sister Rosemary is a Sister of the Sacred Heart of Jesus ministering, to this day, in a special way to the women and children of her homeland in northern Uganda. Read her story. It will enrich your heart!  In Sister Rosemary's own words, “Love is the key!” [click here]

 

The Shepherd Who Didn’t Run: Blessed Stanley Rother, Martyr from Oklahoma (Our Sunday Visitor)



Father Stanley Rother, a priest from my home Archdiocese of Oklahoma City is the first American martyr. He was killed in 1981 at the Oklahoma mission to Santiago Atitlán, Guatemala. But the gem of Blessed Stan is not how he died, but how he lived. We are all called to be saints, and he can show us the way through the ordinary living of our lives.


 

This book is available in Spanish and in English now! Please, help me spread his amazing story! [click here for Spanish] [click here for English]

 

Edith Stein, the Life and Legacy of St. Teresa Benedicta of the Cross (Sophia Institute Press)



Perhaps you have heard about this brilliant, prolific, gifted woman philosopher. But I fell in love with her heart, through her letters written to friends, colleagues and family, as she shared with them her own conversion story. Always seeking the God, she could not see, she finally felt Him deep inside.   I’ll give you a hint, she read the biography of Teresa of Avila, put it down and said, “This is Truth!” [click here]


Whatever you decide to do for your Advent, just pick one thing. Please join me! And I’d love to hear about it once you decide!

 

Blessings to each of you from the Heartland.  I am thankful for YOU!

 


 

 

Tuesday, August 11, 2020

on this my birthday week

 








This is my birthday week. 

 

And it’s not just any birthday, it’s one of those birthdays that is attached to a superlative -- a banner, landmark, milestone birthday.  

 

On August 13, a birth day I share with Fidel Castro (although THAT deserves its own separate headline!), I will turn 60. 

 

I was sharing my thoughts on this with my remarkable 89-year-old mom, who as usual, had an insightful suggestion. Instead of rolling my  eyes  and moaning about the idea of being 60, she said, take the time to write down a list of my blessings. 

 

“¡Ya verás que tu lista de bendiciones va a ser mucho más larga que tus años!”

 

So here is my list. And because 60 is such a HUGE number, I have tried to keep each to one word—with a few exceptions. Also, I decided that listing the 22 members of my Tribe individually would be, well, cheating. 

 

My SIXTY blessings, in no specific order: 

 

1.     My faith

2.     Culture

3.     Cuba

4.     Caribbean

5.     Music

6.     Being woman

7.     Mother Mary

8.     Parents

9.     Refugee / immigrant

10.  Health

11.  Family together

12.  Heart

13.  Humor

14.  Michael

15.  Intuition

16.  Saints

17.  touch

18.  Color

19.  Perspective

20.  Nature

21.  Walking

22.  Camino de Santiago

23.  Singing

24.  Old friends

25.  beauty

26.  Technology

27.  service

28.  brother

29.  Writing

30.  Prayer

31.  Silence

32.  My Grands

33.  My Awesome Foursome

34.  Motherhood

35.  Playfulness

36.  Dancing

37.  Grandmothering

38.  Creating

39.  Traveling

40.  Home

41.  My body, as is

42.  Women in my life

43.  Food

44.  Desire to be real

45.  cooking

46.  flowers/planting

47.  art

48.  hugs

49.  poetry

50.  ocean/beach

51.  sunshine

52.  moon

53.  photos/images

54.  holy examples

55.  laughter

56.  washing machines

57.  animal companions

58.  breath

59.  surprises

60.  being alive to celebrate 60!

 

Mami was right, of course.  

The correct title should not be, “My 60 blessings,” but rather, “Sixty of my blessings”! 










Friday, July 31, 2020

of hearts and memories and home and peach trees and turning 60













Three years ago, my family surprised me with fruit trees for my birthday – a pear, a plum, and a peach tree. As is always true in life, I had no clue then how much my life was getting ready to change or how different my daily landscape would become.

 

Fast forward to last Spring, the months when all my energy became focused on going to heart rehab -- and on the reality of moving and finding a new house in Oklahoma City.

 

As I look back on it now, it’s downright humorous to see how the two became one!

 

For the past year and a bit, I have felt an undeniable parallel connection between the house we lovingly called Casa Scap and my body. It may sound ridiculous, but as I’ve struggled and stumbled over the physical changes and reality of a heart condition and my aging body, I have also fought and cried over the changes and the letting go of that old but familiar home of 23 years.

 

I know it’s just a house. And I know we will make new memories in the new house. Believe me, I know. That Waverly Ct house was the 23rd house I have lived in! 

 

It’s not just about the memories, or the stories, or the Sacraments that we have celebrated there – from First Communions and weddings, to baby showers for my Grands. 

 

It’s not just about my wrinkles, or the sagging, or the new scars and meds – or the fact that I’ll be turning SIXTY in a couple of weeks.

 

It’s about ALL of it. 

 

Saying goodbye to our Norman home reminds me – no, REFLECTS and visualizes for me, how my role as a mother has changed, how different my life as a grandmother is now, and how precious is the life we have left, both as a couple and as individuals. 

 

The last time I walked through our Waverly Court house a few days ago, my eyes watered as I could see with my heart’s eyes the many beautiful moments we experienced there. I consciously and deliberately offered prayers of thanksgiving for the walls and rooms that allowed us to welcome and love the dozens, or rather hundreds, of young people over the years. 

 

And I brought home, to our new house, a bag full of pears and peaches. I laughed out loud when I saw that the fruit trees were loaded with peaches and pears – for the first time, ever! 


Oh, God’s sense of humor…